I continued lock down this weekend. Rainy weather made it easy to stay inside. The Gymnast made it to Arizona. So far it looks like them just doing a bunch of driving. Saturday I had another dream about Billy. I wish they would stop.
So I find myself in a bit of a quandary. I have been chatting with a few girls on line on Seek Arrangements. It is a dating site where you can find anything from woman who want to date older men to prostitutes and girls that want to be keep. It is where I found the Gymnast. I started a new account and I said my age was 50 not 55 because none of those girls I have met on their think I am 55 and the lower number gets you better results. That isn't my quandary.
The problem is I starting texting with a girl on there who wants to date an older guy but isn't looking to be kept. She actually seems pretty cool. We have a lot of common interests. She is 29 and the age difference would be steep if I was 50. I am afraid 55 would be a deal breaker. She will find out eventually should I let it ride or tell her now? It would be too bad. She is most interesting person I have spoken too on a dating site. We haven't met yet though, perhaps there is no physical chemistry.
What do you think? Let it ride a bit longer or reveal it now?
Hmm .... it's an interesting personal matter..... has several areas... . I will continue to follow
ReplyDeleteTommy no advise?
DeleteBreak it gently now, it might be the deal breaker you think it is, or the deal breaker it might be at some later date when it would be much more painful.
ReplyDeleteYeah there is no hiding it in the long run.
DeleteI'd break it to her earlier rather than later because she will be pissed at you lying to her for too long otherwise. Breaks any form of trust and anything either of you have invested will be ruined.
ReplyDeleteYes at this point she will either be pissed or disappointed.
DeleteIts a ticklest subject Bathwater....
ReplyDeleteWell I seem to be getting mixed opinions. I am unsure what to do now.
DeleteLet it ride. If things work out, she won't care at that point. You don't date a 55 year old guy, you date a person. If you are into the person, who cares about 5 years?
ReplyDeleteIt has been my experience that age doesn't matter...until it does. I haven't decided yet.
DeleteI would let her know before you guys meet up, but not the day of. Something like "I'd like to take you out for dinner/walk/whatever, but before we meet up, I want to let you know that I am actually 55 and not 50, I changed this on my profile because of XYZ reason, I wasn't sure if I would find anyone as interesting as you blah blah, I want to give you the facts before we meet. Additionally my pictures were taken on this date" Just so she knows you look like your pictures. At that point, the ball is in her court. I wouldn't want to go out with someone and then they tell me they are actually 5 years older, while it isn't a big deal, the dishonesty is what gets me. Tell her you're an avid sunscreen user or something! LOL.
ReplyDeleteIt not that I look 55. I have girls tell me I look young. I think at some point you hit the wall though. We are just texting still nothing serious.
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