A fifty-three-year-old woman messaged me on Bubble this week. Her profile says she is a widow. Her husband died four years ago. She enjoys college football, concerts, plays, travel, and hanging out at home with someone special.
Though she is three years younger than me, she looks older, and my photos are not filtered like hers. She is not an ideal match, but I go along with the conversation and give it a chance for the sake of being open-minded.
Katie: Hi, how's it going.
Bathwater: Hey, I'm good. Are you enjoying the snow? :) I was hoping it would be 75 soon.
Katie: Good morning. Not at all! I was hoping to be lying in the sun soon.
Bathwater: I know! I get my second vaccine shot today. I was hoping to be all set and ready for summer.
Katie: I had my second one on April 13th.
Bathwater: So what are you looking to do this summer?
Katie: Everything! I'm hoping concerts and sporting events will be open.
(I read this as she needs to be entertained.)
Bathwater: It would be nice to see a concert again. I am looking forward to getting out on my bicycle. That is only weather-dependent, so it should happen soon.
(At this point, her answers get short. Not a good way to spark interest.)
Her profile says she works as an office manager at a dental office. So I say.
Bathwater: So you must be working in the office full time now. We haven't started doing that at my office yet. I'm not looking forward to going back to the commute. There is no point.
Katie: No, I am retired.
(I am thinking, 'At fifty-three? the husband must have left you a nice pension and life insurance policy.')
Bathwater: What do you do now that you have free time?
Katie: Anything I want.
(I take this to mean--nothing at all. She needs to be entertained. This conversation is just another source of entertainment for her, and I have lost interest.)
Bathwater: I am not ready to retire, but last year, I managed to take a 24-day road trip across the southwest. We visited several national parks. I wrote and published a novel and put in about 400 miles on my bike despite Covid.
That is where I am leaving it. There is no point. I don't find her the least bit entertaining or unique.