I started a conversation on Bumble yesterday. This seldom happens. The Detroit metro area is terrible for dating. She is 44 and lives an hour away. It will not go anywhere. Her profile is riddled with red flags. She says she is a feminist, a liberal, and works for a college.
I believe in equal rights for all, but in this country, when a woman touts the fact she is a feminist, it does not mean she believes in equal rights for both men and women. I lean more to a Red pill mindset. I believe feminism has harmed marriage and child-raising.
She is liberal. I am impressed with some of the up-and-coming liberals, but I am a moderate. I can see both sides of an issue. I am not ready for the Big Reset or Marxism.
She works for a college. I have nothing good to say about colleges. They are overpriced liberal strongholds that do not provide value for the cost.
She has two children, ages 10 and 12. Both are nonbinary, she tells me. Perhaps they are, but I wonder how much of the mother's ideas have influenced the children. I am not interested in dating someone with young children. The fact she has children intrigues me. I would really like to know what happened to the father. Was she married? How long? Those answers interest me.
Our conversation starts light, talking about my recent vacation. Her second question is, "Tell me about your job. Do you like it?" Conversations usually shutdowns when I say I work for a Chinese automotive wheel supplier. I left the fact my company is Chinese-owned this time. I want the conversation to continue; I am bored. I doubt we will match.
I get it. I have red flags too. I share my bed with a twenty-year-old addict, but I am trying to change this. Imagine if she looks me up and reads my book or this blog. Dating? Dating is hard.
Non-binary. I think that's funny. I don't understand how people can be so indecisive about their gender. Some may want to change their gender, that's up to them. I wouldn't be surprised if Bumble is on the far left side of Liberal.
ReplyDeleteI think it is fine not to identify with the gender you were born but I think at 10 and 12 you are too young to really know.
DeleteJesus Christ, man. Do both of you a favour and stop this right now. Find a conservative woman like yourself.
ReplyDeleteI am not conservative. I am a moderate and can see both sides of an issue.
DeleteI can't even imagine dating right now. I doubt I will ever date again, I just have no interest in that. About a month after Ken passed away, one of my neighbors asked me if I was going to date again. Some people can start dating that soon, not me.
ReplyDeleteMaybe you'll have someone to talk to since you're bored right now. Nothing wrong with talking even if you know it won't go anywhere. Non binary 10 year old? Yeah, I'm sure the mother had a lot to do with that. I just can't imagine that a 10 year old would even understand what that is. My grandson is 8 and would never even think of something like that. Parents who push that type of thinking on their kids are awful. Rant over. lol
I totally agree and you are not missing anything by not dating.
DeleteGood luck, bathwater. Those are definitely some red flags. Hope you can find someone that you can be completely honest with and makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't matter. I don't believe I will find her on a dating app. I never did.
DeleteNon binary...
ReplyDeletewe recently received an email at work requesting we get educated about this. No one in the office had a fucking idea what it meant.
As we read the material, pretty much 80% of the female population decided the "non binary" label applied to themselves (myself included).
We had a laugh and proceeded trashing the email. And it's quite obvious: we work in a male environment, do a job that is "manly" in our nation culture: how should we feel?
I think only an asshole would define a 10 year old child with a label. A 10 year old is a kid who needs and deserves to explore the world.
Fuck labels. A beautiful song started like this:
Once a label is on something, it becomes an "it", like it's no longer alive..
I'm feminist but mostly I just want to be able to be myself. Actually, these days, mostly I would just ask to be left alone.
I think 10 is too young to know much about yourself. Be yourself! The internet is making THAT harder to do unless you surround yourself with like minded people.
DeleteVery true indeed. and my comment was probably impulsive, because I find your "Judgement" post so true: in the end I want men to like me. I want that a lot. I even want women to like me.
DeleteBut I still want them to like me for me :-)
Well I like you because of your words.
DeleteNothing is wrong with working for a Chinese company although I think China is a communist country that is very controlling of their population. I am not stringing her along. She never replied after I stated my career. I am sure she was looking for someone to take care of her and her non-binary children
ReplyDeleteI CHOOSE to pay for sex because 90% of the women out there are not worth pursuing. I can pass judgment all day long. Woman loss their only value to a man as they get older, their looks. A man gains in value. I am not wasting this woman's time.. She reached out to me. She will get bored long before me. Dating apps are just a way for mediocre women to feel desired. She will get bored before me.
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