Sunday, I got early, walked for five miles, took a break, then went back out to ride my bike for ten more. It was still early in the afternoon, temperatures were in the 80s, so I decided to see what it would be like to strip the Gladiator of the doors and roof. It is more work than the old Jeep. There are more bolts involved.
The winch system I have in my garage worked great for removing the top on my silver Jeep. It is not positioned for the new Jeep, but the top on the new Jeep is lighter, and I think with some adjustments, it will work out fine.
I had nowhere to go and no one to enjoy it with me, but I didn't let that stop me from creating some errands and driving off. I went to the local Dairy Queen. They only had drive-through service. The line was long, but the idea was to enjoy the Jeep, so I didn't mind the wait. I indulged and got a burger, fries, and a blizzard. I cannot remember the last time I had a burger.
That night I stretched out diagonally on the bed. The song Sober by AJR was still stuck in my head. I was sore from my exertions but not tired. I am in a battle with my body. Age is trying to strip me of muscle and vitality, and I struggle to keep it at bay.
Firefly's boyfriend texted me late in the night. She is still trying to tell him she is clean. I feel sorry for him. He is a nice kid and obviously has no one to discuss the situation with if he is turning to me. I suspect he lacks an involved father figure.
I reiterated my warning and gave him some advice. "Find yourself a nice girl, or shut yourself off financially and emotionally from her." I ended it with, "Her birthday is at the end of this month. She will want to party. If you are still with her, I suggest you watch her closely. That is when she could end up doing unrecoverable harm to herself."
I realized this morning why the conversation with Billie is difficult. It is because neither of us can say what we would really like to say. Hearing she is happy would be as difficult as hearing she struggles. I think, though I will never know, it would be the same for her.
But with the beast inside, there's nowhere we can hide
No matter what we breed, we still are made of greed
This is my kingdom come, this is my kingdom come...Demons, Imagine Dragons
The advice is always the same... its been time tested .... its good advice.. solid, sound foundation of beliefs......Let's hope the young man listened.
ReplyDeleteI doubt it Tommy. She has a way of clinging on and spreading those legs.
DeleteSunday was nice here, too. We went to an arboretum and a winery. DQ always sounds good! Thanks for visiting my blog.
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DeleteThe Beast is looking sweet. Looks like you had a great day. Hope Firefly's boyfriend follows your advice.
ReplyDeleteHe will not. He will listen to her lies.
DeleteA blizzard!!! I love blizzards! To hell with the burger, I want the ice cream!!
ReplyDeleteI do too. It is one of the best parts of summer!
Deletedrive another crosscountry trek to...California for the best burgers in the universe! In N Out Burger, wink wink
ReplyDeleteWe have In and Out here. I would like to take another road trip though.
DeleteSometimes they Listen, I know the Ex-DIL finally took my advice, she knew that if I was giving it, being I was his Mother, that she was tolerating more than she should and that it was becoming too toxic for her and the Kiddos. The Son knew I gave her that Sage Advice because I Love her, it didn't mean I didn't Love him, he Thanked me, he's Happy she and the Children have Moved On and in a Positive direction even tho' he has not yet. He keeps trying to... off and on... of coarse my Prayers and Hope are that he Succeeds. I Pray and Hope Firefly does too, but you never know. A Friend recently reminded me that as Parents, after about the Age of 12 they are who they will be and we really can't do anything about that... the Nature versus Nurture torment can Haunt any Parents whose Children are in Crisis... you just always Wrestle with what could you have done to change the coarse of the History that caused destructive behaviors. Of coarse, the answer to that is a complete blank, some Outcomes are just Destiny meets Choices every Adult must make in Life.
ReplyDeleteI have seen some people change a bit, but you are right I don't think I have changed in 35 years.
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